Sometimes I look at my destination and where I think I should be, and get nauseous at the reality that life goes nowhere fast– doesn’t matter how many horsepower you engage trying to get there. It really takes consistency and patience. If like me, you’ve had one too many bad nights where you’ve downed glasses of impatience mixed with existentialism, then like me you’ve gone through the motions of seasickness from the slow moving waves of life. It’s a reality though that we have to find ways of dealing with, and quickly, because let’s face it, there are only two ultimate final destinations in life: enlightenment and death. I’ve heard that both can take a while to get to, though one more than the other has certainty and a VIP quick access pass. Take a guess which one.
So what do you do to get over the grogginess? Honestly, bud, I’m not sure. I’m here trying to figure it out just like you! Everyone is, really, despite what self-help experts and parents say. Right now what I will continue to do is to not think so long term; see life for the phases, moments and pit stops that it is; make goals; and enjoy the small wins. If you’re working on something that you believe in, keep at it. I’ve seen way too many people decide to start something, and just through sheer consistency over time grow an ant of an idea into a giant.
It’s truly impressive how much time with effort makes so many changes. Initially though, and here’s where the frustration and seasickness come in, it seems like it’s taking forever to get where ever you want to go; feels like nothing is happening. Why isn’t anything happening? BUT WHYYYYYY? Just like the world’s moving without you noticing your life/idea is moving also. It doesn’t feel like it, but consistency in the drive to achieve our set goals makes a huge difference in the long term (the big picture), though only in retrospect. Only in retrospect, can we really breathe a sigh of relief from all the mundane and painful time and effort we invested in our goals. Only in retrospect do we get to pat ourselves on the back for the steadfastness. Only in retrospect can we really say, thank God this shit worked out or I would have been screwed. Only in retrospect do we notice that people were noticing the growth from consistency, and as a result were taking our intentions serious.
We can reverse engineer and work back the hell out of your lives all we want, there will be many things we can never predict or expect, but it’s only in retrospect do we really see what brought us to our destinations. It’s like a puzzle. You have this big picture in mind of what you want and now you have to put the pieces together. Life’s a puzzle not because it’s quizzical, but because of the many pieces and the time you have to invest in materializing the big picture. What’s more, sometimes someone is there to help you, often times you’re fitting pieces together on your own; sometimes it’s boring, other times it’s the fulfilling part of your day; but always you will be plugging pieces into spaces that don’t match. You have to keep at it until you eventually find the right fit. Unlike the game, where you can give up, life doesn’t give you much of a choice. You consistently go at it until the big picture is revealed..or not. Either way, it’s not until it’s done that you also realize it’s what you had in mind or that you’re missing some pieces and have to start a new puzzle–and that’s the unexpected and unpredictable part of life.